Uhlakaniphile ngokomzwelo

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo nguDaniel Goleman uchaza ukubaluleka kwemizwa empilweni yakho, ukuthi isiza kanjani futhi ilimaze kanjani ikhono lakho lokuzulazula emhlabeni, ilandelwa iseluleko esisebenzayo sendlela yokuthuthukisa ukuhlakanipha kwakho ngokomzwelo nokuthi kungani kuyisihluthulelo sokuhola impilo ephumelelayo.

Nakuba i-Focus iyincwadi kaDaniel Goleman ephumelele kakhulu futhi inconywa njengenye yezincwadi zakhe ezihamba phambili, ubuhlakani bemizwal (noma i-EQ) empeleni idume kakhulu. Umsebenzi wakhe wobuciko uthengise amakhophi angaphezu kwezigidi ezi-5 emhlabeni wonke futhi usuhunyushelwe ezilimini ezingama-40.

Isifinyezo kanye nama-Synopsis

UGoleman uchaza ukuthi izingqondo ezimbili ezihlukene zihlala kanjani ebuchosheni bethu, eyodwa enengqondo neyodwa engokomzwelo, nokuthi kungani amakhono amahlanu ayisihluthulelo akha "ukufunda" kwakho ngokomzwelo empeleni kuwukubikezela okukhulu kwenjabulo nempumelelo kunekhono ovame ukucabanga ngalo. Siyakukala: IQ.

Nazi izifundo ezi-3 zokuthi kuyini ubuhlakani bemizwa, kungani bubaluleke kangaka, nokuthi ungakuthola kanjani okwengeziwe:

  • Ubuhlakani bemizwa busekelwe ekuzaziseni nasekuzilawuleni.
  • I-IQ ephezulu ikwenza ube nempilo futhi uphumelele kakhudlwana.
  • Ungakwazi ukukhulisa i-IQ yakho ngokubuka ulimi lomzimba lwabanye abantu nokucabanga ngendlela enethemba.

Isifundo 1: Ubuhlakani bemizwa buncike ekhonweni lakho lokuzazi kanye nokuzilawula.

Kunezingxenye ezimbili zokuba ohlakaniphile ngokomzwelo. Enye iwukuzazi ngokomzwelo. Kusho nje ukuthi uyakwazi ukubona nokubhala imizwa yakho.

Kungase kukuthande:  Indlela Yokunqoba Abangane Nokuthonya Abantu

Ngokwesibonelo, lapho izingane zifunda ukukhuluma, ngokuvamile kudingeka zinikezwe ulwazi lwamagama kuqala, ngakho uma ingane yakho ithukuthele ngokuthi ungayivumeli ukuba idle amaswidi ngaphambi kokudla kwakusihlwa, iyokwazi ukuthi izizwa kabi, kodwa ayikwazi. tshela ukuthi yini ngempela, uze umtshele ukuthi into oyizwayo intukuthelo.

Ingxenye yesibili ye-equation yokulinganisa ukuzilawula kwemizwa.

Njengomuntu omdala, ukwazi ukubona imizwa yakho ezingeni le-meta (sibonga ukuqaphela, ukufunda ngokuzindla, noma ezinye izivivinyo zokuzazi) kubalulekile ekukhetheni ukuthi usabela kanjani emizweni yakho, noma ukuthi usabele nhlobo.

Isibonelo, uma uhlezi ehhovisi lakho futhi uzwa umsindo omkhulu ongazelelwe, njengomsindo wokuqhuma, isikhungo sakho sokucubungula imizwa sizokubona njengosongo futhi sibeke umzimba wakho kumodi yokuxwayisa. Kodwa uma ubuchopho bakho obunengqondo buhlola kabili futhi bubona ukuthi akukho usongo lwangempela lapho, bubuye buthule ukuze bukwazi ukubuyela endleleni obukade buyenza ngayo ngaphambilini.

Zombili lezi zimfanelo zincike kakhulu ekuxhumaneni kwemizwa phakathi kobuchopho bakho obunengqondo kanye nengqondo yakho yomzwelo, okuthi, uma inqanyuliwe, ibangele izinkinga ezinkulu.

Isifundo 2: Uma une-EQ ephezulu, maningi amathuba okuthi uphumelele futhi uphile kahle.

I-IQ, izinga lobuhlakani bakho, ngokuvamile yilokho esicabanga ukuthi kunquma impumelelo. Kodwa ucwaningo lukaGoleman lwamholela ekubeni akholelwe ukuthi i-EQ, ubuhlakani bomzwelo, ibaluleke kakhulu, uma kungenjalo, ekutholeni injabulo.

Ngokwesibonelo, ezweni lamabhizinisi nemisebenzi, abafundi abanamazinga aphezulu ozwela babonakala bethola amamaki angcono, ngisho noma ontanga yabo behlakaniphe ngendlela efanayo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bakwazi kangcono ukulawula imizwa yabo, njengokuba nesithukuthezi, kodwa basawenza umsebenzi wabo wesikole wasekhaya, futhi benza kangcono ezindaweni zomphakathi, njengokwazi ukuthi kufanele bakhulume nini nokuthi bathule nini ekilasini.

Kungase kukuthande:  Izindawo zakho ezimbi

Ngokufanayo, njengoba kungenzeka wazi ocwaningweni oludumile lwe-marshmallow, izingane ezikwazi ukuzithiba kangcono zisencane nazo zivame ukwenza kangcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Futhi, abaphathi, abanamakhono abantu, bayoba namandla okuncenga abantu lapho bedinga futhi ngaleyo ndlela benze umsebenzi ongcono wokuhola abantu.

Impilo yakho iphinde incike kakhulu ku-EQ yakho, ngoba uma unokuningi, unganciphisa kangcono ukucindezeleka, okungase kuvimbele izifo eziningi, uma kungezona zonke, ezivame kakhulu zesikhathi sethu.

Isifundo sesi-3: Ungakwazi ukwandisa i-EQ yakho ngokulingisa ulimi lomzimba lwabanye abantu nokucabanga ngendlela enethemba.

Nazi izivivinyo ezimbili ezinhle kakhulu zokwandisa ubuhlakani bakho bomzwelo:

  • Bonisa ulimi lomzimba lwabanye abantu.
  • Ziqinisekise ukuthi ukwehluleka kwabo kuwumphumela wezinto ongazishintsha.

Ukuzivocavoca kokuqala ngeke kukusize nje ukuthi uxhumane kangcono nomuntu etafuleni, kodwa futhi kuzokwenza ukuthi uziqaphele kakhulu ngokomzwelo.

Ngokwesibonelo, lapho umuntu okhuluma naye enokuma okuhle, ukuqondisa umzimba wakho kuzokuthumela izimpawu ezicashile ezingasho lutho, ezingakwethemba, zikusize ubone indlela ozizwa ngayo ngokuma okuhle, futhi kukwenze ube nozwela. , ngoba manje uyazi ukuthi bazizwa kanjani lapho umzimba wabo ukuleso simo.

Ingenye yalezo "inkohliso uze uyenze" izimo, ezikusiza ukuthi uthuthukise imikhuba engcono.

Ukuzivocavoca kwesibili kukusiza ukuba ube nethemba. Abantu abanethemba lokuhle bayaqhubeka bezama, ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi izenzo zabo zenza umehluko ngakho-ke maningi amathuba okuba baphumelele. Lokhu kusekelwe endleleni abachaza ngayo ukwehluleka.

Kungase kukuthande:  Cabanga futhi ucebe

Bacabanga ukuthi izenzakalo ezimbi ezesikhashana, zangaphandle, futhi ziqondile, futhi banamandla okuziguqula zibe ngcono ngokuzenza zibe ngcono ngokuzayo. Ngakho-ke ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho kukhona okungahambi kahle, zitshele, "Kulungile, lokhu kuzokwenzeka, into eyodwa nje, ngizoba ngcono futhi ngingcono kulokhu!"

Isihloko kanye Nesingeniso

Isihloko esithakazelisayo sokuthi "Emotional Intelligence" ebhalwe nguDaniel Goleman uthi le ncwadi ibalulekile. Iphinde iphakamise ukuthi incwadi izochaza kabusha ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuhlakanipha. Umbhalo ongezansi ususa impikiswano ngokubika ukuthi ubuhlakani bemizwa bubaluleke kakhulu kunomphumela we-IQ.

Isahluko sesethulo esithi "Inselelo Ka-Aristotle" siqala ngengcaphuno evela ku-Aristotle mayelana nemizwa enolaka. Inselele inikezwa labo abacabanga ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kukodwa kwanele ukuze ukuphila kwabo kuphumelele. Izinkolelo-mbono zofuzo zobuhlakani ziyagxekwa.

I-Análisis

Uyazi ukuthi zingaki izincwadi ezingezona eziyiqiniso ezinephuzu elihle zokwenza bese ugcwalisa amakhasi engeziwe angama-200 ngolwazi olwengeziwe ukuze empeleni bakwazi ukulishicilela njengencwadi? I ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo Akunjalo.

Iphelele kakhulu. Ngemva kokukwethula imizwa ngokujwayelekile nokuthi kungani ibalulekile, u-Goleman uchaza umbono wesilinganisi, ukuthi yini eyakhayo, kungani sisihle, nokuthi singasithuthukisa kanjani.

Ingabe uhlale uzivumela ukuba uthathwe imizwelo yakho? Ungathanda ukufunda ukulawula ukusabela kwakho ngokomzwelo ekhaya noma emsebenzini? Noma mhlawumbe udinga usizo lokubhekana nemizwa yomunye umuntu?

Uhlakaniphile ngokomzwelo kaDaniel Goleman yincwadi esezingeni eliphezulu yemizwa: iyini imizwa nokuthi kungani sinayo, singaba ngcono kanjani ekuyilawuleni, nokuthi kungani inhlalakahle yesintu ingancika ekutheni senze kanjalo.

Imizwa iyizisusa ezinamandla ezisikhuthaza ukuba sithathe isinyathelo ngokushesha. Asekelwe ezidingweni eziyisisekelo (ngokuvamile ukusinda) futhi aklanywe ngokwengqondo ukuze asiqhubele esenzweni ngaphandle kokucabanga kakhulu: “ukubalekela ingwe ngaphambi kokucabangela izinketho kuyasibulala!”

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuzwa imizwa: izinkinga ziphakama lapho imizwa ingahambisani nesimo nalapho singayivezi imizwa yethu ngendlela ephumelelayo noma ngokuphepha.


Okuqukethwe yi-athikili kuhambisana nemigomo yethu yezimiso zokuziphatha zokuhlela. Okwamanje sisebenzela ukulungisa nokuthuthukisa okuqukethwe kwethu ngezinye izilimi.

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