Abantu abanobuthi

"Abantu abanobuthi” es un texto de autoayuda escrito por Bernardo Stamateas, aquí nos plantea los diferentes tipos de gente tóxica que nos podemos encontrar y que pueden ser un gran obstáculo en el logro de nuestros objetivos.

Kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale ucabangela lokho ofuna ukukuzuza nokujabulisayo. Kodwa kufanele futhi ukhethe kahle abantu abazokuphelezela empilweni yakho, ngoba lokhu kungachaza futhi kube nomthelela ekufezweni kwezinhloso zakho.

Isifinyezo sencwadi ethi "Toxic People":

Kule ncwadi umbhali uphakamisa izinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu abanobuthi, esizozisho ukuze sibonise umqondo walokho umbhali ahlose ukukwembula enkulumweni yakhe.

1.- Abagxeki:

Sonke sizalwa sinenjongo ekuphileni. Ngakho-ke, awukwazi ukuvumela noma ubani ukuthi athole indlela yokusonta indlela yakho futhi akwenze uzizwe unecala ngakho konke okungenzeka akuhambanga kahle kuwe. Kunezimo ezinganquma lokho. Awukwazi ukujabulisa wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke kufanele uzinakekele wena kuqala.

2.- Abanomona:

Umona uhlobene nokuhleba, ukudikibala, ukuhleba. Lokhu kusiqeda amandla, njengoba kunabantu abanakekela abanye esikhundleni sokuzinakekela bona. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ubalekele kulokho futhi ulwele lokho okufunayo ngempela, ngoba impumelelo yomunye ingaba ugqozi lwakho.

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3.- Ongafanelekile:

Lezi zinhlobo zabantu zihlala zifuna ukubukela phansi umsebenzi noma umsebenzi owenziwa omunye. Ihlose ukulawula imizwa yethu, isenze siphatheke kabi noma nini lapho ithola ithuba.

4.- Umhlukumezi wamazwi:

Lolu olunye uhlobo lwabantu abanobuthi oluyingozi kakhulu empilweni yakho, njengoba inhloso yabo eyinhloko iwukukwenza uzizwe ungelutho ukuze wenze buthaka futhi ulahle imigomo yakho. Ngakho-ke, funa ukwenza izitatimende ezingezinhle ngalokho okwenzayo; iyakucasula futhi ifuna ukukuthobisa.

5.- Inkohliso:

Enye yezinto okufanele uzigweme ngazo zonke izindlela ukuzungeza abantu mbumbulu, abangebona abaqotho. Kufanele ugxile kuwena futhi ube yiqiniso futhi uzenzekele ngaso sonke isikhathi.

6.- I-psychopath:

Lezi zinhlobo zabantu ababi zingaba noma kuphi futhi zingamakhosi enkohliso nokukhaphela. Bangacekela phansi impilo yakho. Abazizwa benecala, bangantshontsha, babulale, bakhohlise kalula, bazungeza isisulu sabo futhi bamncenge kangangokuthi uyazinikela ezimweni eziningi.

7.-Okumaphakathi:

Lolu hlobo lomuntu lugculiseka ngalokho analo futhi aluzifaki izinselelo ngoba alufuni ukuzifaka engozini ngokuthola okuncane anakho. Ngakho kufanele uzimisele ukufeza lokho okukujabulisa ngempela. Konke kulele kuwe.

8.- Inhlebo:

Ukuhleba kuyinto engeke igwemeke emphakathini, kodwa ungahlala kude nabantu abanjalo ngokusemandleni akho. Ngokunjalo zama ukuthi ungawaphindi lawo mahemuhemu ngoba uzogcina usufana nomuntu ohlebayo owakutshela ngakho. Ngakho intambo.

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9.- Umphathi onegunya:

Lezi zinhlobo zabantu abanobuthi zisizakala ngesidingo sesisebenzi sabo seholo noma ukwesaba ukuxoshwa. Ngale ndlela, umphathi onegunya uyahlukumeza, akenzi njengesiqondiso, akatholi ithimba lakhe ukuba lifeze imisebenzi yalo ngokuzithandela, kodwa lihlale lifuna ukulawula, liqokomisa igunya lakhe. Ngakho-ke, indawo yokusebenza iyindawo enokhahlo futhi enobutha. Ngalo mqondo, umholi weqiniso kufanele kube ngumuntu onamaphupho, owaziyo ukuthi yini afuna ukuyizuza futhi awadlulisele kubasebenzi bakhe.

I-10.- I-neurotic:

Lezi zinhlobo zabantu ziyakhungatheka uma zingakutholi ezikufunayo. Bazizwa bekhathazekile futhi becindezelekile. Besaba kakhulu ukugxekwa futhi bangashintsha isimo sabo sengqondo njalo. Okungabavumeli ukuthi bagxile kubo, kodwa ngombono womunye.

11.- I-manipulator:

Laba bantu bahlale befuna ukulawula yonke into abangakwazi ukuyenza. Isebenzisa izindlela ezahlukene ukukhohlisa nokuthola lokho abakufunayo. Bangabayengi, badlala izisulu, bakwenza ubone ukuthi bahle kangakanani, phakathi kwamanye amaqhinga abangawasebenzisa.

12.- Abaziqhenyayo:

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi singazethembi thina kuphela kodwa nakwabanye. Kodwa kufanele sivuleleke ukuze sithuthuke futhi sazi ukuthi singawenza amaphutha, ngoba asiphelele futhi izinto zingalungiswa ngaso sonke isikhathi.

13.- Ummangali:

Uma sikhononda sakha isimo sokunganeliseki nokungabi nandaba okungeke kuxazulule isimo ekugcineni. Kungagcina sekufake ubuthi emicabangweni yakho futhi kube nomthelela empilweni yakho.

Ngalo mqondo, lapho abantu bekhononda, baxosha yonke leyo mizwa ecindezelwe engakuvumeli ukuthi uye phambili ukuze uthole izixazululo esikhundleni sokuphila impilo egcwele ukukhononda nokunganeliseki. Ngakho ufuna ukuhlehlisa izinto futhi abone uhlangothi oluhle lwesimo. Ngale ndlela uzozizwa ungcono ngawe futhi ngeke ucasule abanye ngamazwi akho amabi.

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Ukuhlaziywa kwe-"Toxic People":

Encwadini ethi "Toxic People" izinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu ababi zivezwa ezingathinta kakhulu izimpilo zethu. Iyasinxusa futhi ukuthi singabi yingxenye yalolu hlobo lwabantu abayingozi, ngoba singanakile singawela kulowo mdlalo sibe yilabo esibagxeka kakhulu.

Ngale ndlela, umgomo wethu uwukuba sikwazi ukukhetha ngendlela efanele abantu abazoba nathi ezimpilweni zethu. Ukuxhumana esikusungulayo nabanye kuzochaza futhi kuqinise amaphrojekthi ethu.

Okokugcina, lo mbhali ufuna ukuqwashisa ukuthi singahlala senza amaphutha asivimbayo futhi angasivumeli ukuthi siwafake emaphusheni ethu. Thina ngokwethu singabaqambi bekusasa lethu futhi esikwenzayo kumelwe kuqala kukho konke kusijabulise, ngoba kuhlale kufunwa ukuvunyelwa abanye futhi uma lokhu kungenzeki, sizizwa sikhungathekile futhi sidabukile.

Okubalulekile ukuthi uzizwe wanelisekile ngomzamo wakho, ukuthi wazi ukuthi zonke izinsuku singathuthuka nokuthi izinto ngeke zihlale zihamba ngendlela esifuna ngayo. Kodwa kule nqubo esikufundayo yilokho okubalulekile futhi uma kusinika injabulo, kubaluleke nakakhulu.

Izingcaphuno ze-Verbatim:

"Uma bekutshela ukuthi akufanelekile, uyaphikelela, ngoba ngokuqinisekile ukuchuma kwakho kufihliwe ekwaleni"

"Umgomo wakho awukona ukuqonda noma ukuthethelela izimo zengqondo zabanye, kodwa eyakho, ukufeza umbono odingekayo wokulungisa futhi uqhubekele emgomweni"


Okuqukethwe yi-athikili kuhambisana nemigomo yethu yezimiso zokuziphatha zokuhlela. Okwamanje sisebenzela ukulungisa nokuthuthukisa okuqukethwe kwethu ngezinye izilimi.

Uma ungumhumushi ogunyaziwe ungasibhalela nokusebenza nathi. (isiJalimane, iSpanishi, isiFulentshi)

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